i love you because .........

I love you because .........

For those who are skeptical about love, love doesn't come up wrapped, already made. Love works for all those who work at it. It needs a twosome for it to work out. Love is something that makes happy things happier. It is a language just for two, spoken in a world just for two, as time stands still-just for two. To share love with someone is to know the fullest meaning of what happiness can be. Love knows no bound, and we sometimes loose our grasp with reality when we're in love.  Unfortunately, love can make you and it can also break you.

                              Love is the greatest feeling in the whole world. When you are in love, you see mainly the positive sides of the character of the person, you are in love with. Everyone wonder sometimes what the reasons I love you are. However, each one of the persons has different reasons, but some of the most common among all of them are:

                           One of the reasons I love you is the way you make me feel alive, because that is the most important thing for one person.Another one of the reasons I love you is that you have trust in me, because one couple can’t survive a long time without it.I love you, because you are faithful.I love the way you talk.I love you, because you are one of the most intelligent people I know.When you hug me, I feel safe.I am in love with your blue eyes, because when you look at me I feel loved.Another one of the reasons I love you is the fact that you know how to be a real man.I love you, because you are my best friend.I am in love with you, because when I need you, you will help me immediately.One of the reasons I love you is the way that you kiss and touch me.I love you, because you can forgive me.Another one of the reasons I love you is your optimism.I love you, because you can always make me laugh or smile even when I don’t want to.I love your gentleness with me.I am in love with you, because you are so nice.One of the reasons I love you is the fact that you take care of me.I love you, because you are awesome to my mom and dad, and my brother and even my dog and how they all love you so much. Another one other reasons I love you is the fact that I learn new things about you every day. I love you, because you let me in your life and your heart. I am in love with you, because you give me a presents without a reason.I love your honesty.One of the reasons I love you is your perfect body. I love you, because of your charm and charisma. I love your strong hands.Another one of the reasons I love you, because of your aspiration to achieve success in your life.I love you, because I am in your plans for the feature.I love you, because you always bring out the best in me.I am in love with you, because you always look for and find the positive in everything.One of the reasons I love you is the fact that you always tell and show me every day how much you love me.Another one of the reasons I love you is that I can be myself when I am with you.You are never boring.We can talk about everything.I love you, because you are the light of my life.I am in love with you, because you are the most beautiful thing in my life. One of the reasons I love you is that every time I look at you, my heart misses a beat. I love to hear your voice.I love your smell.I love you, because when you are with me everything seems possible.Another one of the reasons I love you is the fact that you help me with everything.I am in love with you, because you make me feel like I have never felt before.I love you, because you always respect my decisions and are always behind me.I love that we can talk for hours about nothing. I love the way your body moves when we kiss.One of the reasons I love you is that I can feel your love in the warmth of your touch,because it touch my heart and my soul. Another one of the reasons I love you is that every night, when we go to sleep, you hug me.“Do you love me because Im beautiful or am I beautiful because you love me?"“I may not get to see you as often as I like. I may not get to hold you in my arms all through the night. But deep in my heart I truly know, you are the one that I love, and I cant let you go."“I think about you every day and night. I just can’t get you out my head; I told you everything u needed to know. Now I am waiting for you to tell me what you are thinking.The next thing I know I open my door and you were there. you hugs me and I knew it was love""U can fall formed the sky, U can Fall From a Tree, but the best way to fall is in love with me" No Guy is Worth your tears and when you find one that is i wont make you cry.""Too many sleepless nights thinking of you, and when I wake up my tears are running side of my cheeks ,thinking how much I want to be with you and I’m going to miss you still even as a gay as friend but yeah its part of life so ya!""Your tears make me want to change the world so that it wont hurt you anymore..."“It’s funny that when I read love quotes, you seem to pop up into my head (L)”"Love has its own time, its own season, its own reasons for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coax it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you""I want to be the only one to get the chance to see how amazing you really are"

                                    Once we feel love, we find no way to control its selfish desires even if it means hurting the one closest person to you.  There are no guarantees when it comes to love. Love is like that, we don't control it, we can only deny or accept it when it's there and the only way we can measure love  is by looking deep down inside our hearts, then we'll know how much and for how long.

Most of us have the ideal concept of what a perfect relationship is and when we dive towards this relationship, we get frustrated because our expectations may never be met. But true love doesn't expect anything in return. If we only try to be open-minded and understand that we give love not to gain favor but it is something we share to someone special because giving it makes us happy.

It is easy to say "I love you" or "I need you" and other flowery words that will linger to the very core of our hearts, the thing is, can we take the responsibility and commitment for our promises? Why do people say I love you but in reality they don't really understand what is love and how to love.

It is very painful to learn that someone you really love have someone else besides you! They will make you fall in love completely and devotedly but later on they will leave you hanging  and in despair, these are the people who never care at all. I pity those kind of people, they have a serious problem with themselves. All of us at one time in our lives have been hurt by those whom we have loved and trusted, they leave us painfully shattered into pieces, but only when we recognize why love fades away, can we truly understand the reason why we get hurt.

There are times in our lives that we must experience to live in pain, a time when it's hard to forget and it hurts to remember. There is nothing wrong in holding on to the memories of the person we once loved.  They are all part of us. But engaging in a relationship and at the same time living in the past is unfair. Yesterday must never keep us from today's reality. We can never forget those whom we have loved.
Those people that gave us something to feel for and brings us the brilliance within ourselves.  People who made our lives meaningful and special inside and out. A life worth living for. But only when we learn to accept the reasons why they have gone, can we truly put the past where it belongs. Besides,  we did our part, we gave them our best, if they refused it, it is their loss not ours.

You're not the only one to feel disappointed by love. It happens to everyone--all of us--beautiful or not, rich or poor, wise or naive. We all deserve someone, and mysteriously that  certain someone makes him or herself known to us--not always when we need them most but for sure they will be there. Change is the one constant thing in life--there will be a time for love and a time for emptiness. No one is exempted from being left behind, still, no one has to be left behind forever. There's always room for love in your life with an extra bed for the unexpected guest, sure as love comes from the most unexpected places where you are the one to figure out where the heck in the universe are these located! Love comes...love goes, like a journey... Love is like that, full of mystery, full of mischief, that's why when love takes over, miracles can happen especially if  True love prevails... 

alcoholism

ALCOHOLISM

INTRODUCTION

                 Regular intake of alcohol (chemically called as ethanol) either of low concentration or high concentration causes dependency upon the alcohol called alcohol addict or alcoholism. It is produced by fermentation of carbohydrates found in foods like grains, fruits, potatoes, etc. Alcoholism or alcohol dependence is defined by American Medical Association (AMA) as “a primary, a chronic disease with genetic, psychosocial, and environmental factors influencing its development manifestations.”   The term “alcoholism" is commonly used, but poorly defined. The WHO calls alcoholism "a term of long-standing use and variable meaning". In professional and research contexts, the term "alcoholism" sometimes encompasses both alcohol abuse and alcohol dependence, and sometimes is considered equivalent to alcohol dependence. Alcoholism can also characterized by:   

--a prolonged period of frequent, heavy alcohol use 

--the inability to control drinking once it has begun.

--physical dependence manifested by withdrawal symptoms when the individual stops using alcohol.

--tolerance, or the need to use more and more alcohol to achieve the same effects.

--a variety of social and/or legal problems arising from alcohol use.

HISTORY

        Alcoholism is a broad term for problems with alcohol, and is generally used to mean compulsive and uncontrolled consumption of alcoholic beverages, usually to the detriment of the drinker's health, personal relationships, and social standing. It is medically considered a disease, specifically an addictive illness, and in psychiatry several other terms are used, specifically "alcohol abuse" and "alcohol dependence," which have slightly different definitions. In 1979 an expert of World Health Organization committee discouraged the use of "alcoholism" in medicine, preferring the category of "alcohol dependence syndrome". In the 19th and early 20th centuries, alcohol dependence in general was called dipsomania, but that term now has a much more specific meaning. People suffering from alcoholism are often called "alcoholics". Many other terms, some of them insulting or informal, have been used throughout history. The World Health Organization estimates that there are 140 million people with alcoholism worldwide. In Talbot (1989) observes that alcoholism in the classical disease model follows a progressive course: if a person continues to drink, their condition will worsen. This will lead to harmful consequences in their life, physically, mentally, emotionally and socially.

TYPES OF ALCOHOLISM

There are about 5 Types of Alcoholism:

The study describes five types of alcoholism

The young adult type accounts for about 32% of NEPAL alcoholics. They're young adults who rarely seek help for alcohol dependence. About 24 years old, they became alcoholics by age 20, on average. They drink less frequently than other alcoholics, but they tend to binge drink when they drink. This is the largest type.

The young antisocial type comprises 21% of NEPAL alcoholics. They are 26 years old, on average. More than half have antisocial personality disorder. They tended to start drinking at 15 and became alcoholics by 18 -- earlier than other types. They are more likely to smoke tobacco and pot. The young antisocial type and the young adult type don't overlap.

The functional type accounts for about 19% of NEPAL alcoholics. They're generally middle-aged, working adults who tend to have stable relationships, more education, and higher incomes than other alcoholics. They tend to drink every other day, often consuming five or more drinks on drinking days.

The intermediate familial type makes up nearly 19% of NEPAL alcoholics. Nearly half have close relatives who are alcoholics. Alcoholics in this type typically began drinking by 17 and became alcoholics in their early 30s.

The chronic severe type is the rarest type, accounting for about 9% of NEPAL alcoholics. This subtype mainly includes men, has the highest divorce rate, and frequently includes users of illicit drugs.

 CAUSES OF ALCOHOLISM

     Some causes of alcoholism are:

§  To obtain pleasure, fun and excitement.

§  To satisfy one’s curiosity and to get firsthand experience.

§  The most common cause of death in alcoholics is from cardiovascular complications.

§  Loss of will power, self control, judgement and emotional control.

§  Anyone who drinks enough over a long period of time can become alcoholic.

§  Alcoholism is caused by an individual's "allergy" to alcohol.

§  It is caused by either a deficiency or excess of neurotransmitters in the chemical makeup of the brain.

       Alcoholism is an environmental product, influenced by one's surroundings.      There are areas of the country where drinking is much more acceptable than in other areas; and, therefore, more drinkers can be found there. There are also occupations which appear to attract heavy drinkers. These include popular musicians, poets, novelists, salesmen, career soldiers and sailors, and coal miners.

EFFECTS OF ALCOHOLISM

The effects of alcoholism are far reaching. Alcohol affects every body system, causing a wide range of health problems. Problems include poor nutrition, memory disorders, difficulty with balance and walking, liver disease (including cirrhosis and hepatitis), high blood pressure, muscle weakness (including the heart), heart rhythm disturbances, anemia, clotting disorders, decreased immunity to infections, gastrointestinal inflammation and irritation, acute and chronic problems with the pancreas, low blood sugar, high blood fat content, interference with reproductive fertility, increased risk of cancer of the liver, esophagus, and breast, weakened bones, sleep disturbances, anxiety, and depression. About 20% of adults admitted to the hospital (for any reason) are alcohol dependent. Men are more than twice as likely to be alcohol dependent than women, and smokers who are alcohol dependent are much more likely to develop serious or fatal health problems associated with alcoholism.

1.     EFFECT ON INDIVIDUAL

                    Alcoholism may sometimes seem like an individual's problem, but it can also impact families because of the different effects that alcohol can have on an individual. People with alcohol problems may act out of character when under the influence. Some alcoholics become so violent and irritable that they can be a danger to other people that they live with. The alcoholic also will not be able to fulfill various roles (husband, father, employee) if he spends a lot of time drinking alcohol. Family members then spend their time and effort trying to help the alcoholic, which may take a toll on them. This can destroy relationships.

Alcohol use during pregnancy may cause severe birth defects. There may be decrease in ability to think clearly to the people. Liver disease, called alcoholic hepatitis, may also develop and can progress to fatty liver syndrome and alcoholic cirrhosis. In fatty liver, the hepatocytes are filled with fat. In cirrhosis, liver is hard, nodular and fibrotic and scarred.

2. EFFECTS ON FAMILY

            Alcoholism is a chronic disease characterized by cravings for alcohol, inability to limit alcohol use and continuing to drink despite side effects such as physical and social problems. According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, seventy-six million adults have been affected by alcoholism in the family. When a parent suffers from alcoholism, children are at risk of having low self-esteem, depression, poor performance in school and difficulty getting close to others. When these children become adults, they may experience the same problems and have difficulty with intimacy. Alcoholism can also lead to child neglect, with subsequent lasting damage to the emotional development of the alcoholic's children. For this reason, children of alcoholic parents can develop a number of emotional problems. For example, they can become afraid of their parents, because of their unstable mood behaviors. In addition, they can develop considerable amount of shame over their inadequacy to liberate their parents from alcoholism. As a result of this failure, they develop wretched self-images, which can lead to depression.

                                                                                   

3. EFFECT ON SOCIETY

            The social problems arising from alcoholism are serious, caused by the pathological changes in the brain and the intoxicating effects of alcohol. Alcohol abuse is associated with an increased risk of committing criminal offences, including child abuse, domestic violence, rape, burglary and assault. Alcoholism is associated with loss of employment, which can lead to financial problems. Due to alcoholism students may have poor performance at work and school. The alcoholics could suffer from loss of respect from others. Their relationship with the others is broken. There will be more vehicle accidents, head injuries. About 50% of all traffic deaths are related to alcohol use. Due to alcoholism their will be loss of reputation in society.  

PREVENTION AND CONTROL MEASURES OF ALCOHOLISM

v Education should be given to the people about the effect of the use of alcohol in daily life, and different programs should be conducted in schools, colleges, and other different universities.

v Community people should be encouraged to make alcohol free environment.

v Drinking in public places, parties and family celebrations using alcohol should be discouraged.

v Taxes on the alcohol should be increased and drunk driving should be penalized.

v Counseling to the family members about alcoholism.

v People who cannot stop drinking alcohol should stick to the recommended safe limit of alcohol.           

v The restaurants and bar should be closed before 10 o’clock in the night so that alcoholic does not make any problem at night.

v There should be separate place for people to drink alcohol and the shopkeeper should give limited amount of alcohol to the people at a time.

v The last thing is that the government should bring strict law about the use of such substance.